“How unbelievable a fate it was. How beautiful a memory it was. I experienced that. And the result is that I found again the heart which I had lost temporarily. Here at this place where the past and the present constantly revolve around each other…”— Gong Ah Jung (Lie to Me)
“Because we are a society that loves, I can accept that suspicions can arise. However, I can’t accept my situation solely based on the fact that we are a society of people who love. If a situation like mine occurs in the future because it involves a family member or a lover and fearing that this fact may cause suspicions I believe that an unjust choice or decision will be made. I believe that then is when a civil servant will fail in maintaining the objectivity that must be strictly upheld.”— Gong Ah Jung (Lie to Me)
In a situation like that, it’s obvious. One person’s going to get hurt. Circumstances, actions, positions, they all have something to do with what happens next. Decisions that hurt someone else, they aren’t thought of as “hurtful”. They’re thought of as “it’s all we can do”. The pain someone feels due to them isn’t noticed, or ignored due to not wanting to feel as though you’re the one to blame. People make mistakes, that’s for sure. But decisions shouldn’t be made without hearing someone out. Only the questions that you want answered, which in the end only show one side of the story, aren’t the ones that you should be asking.
“Revealing the truth, whatever it may be, that is the principle. Who’s right and who’s wrong, whether someone is a criminal or not; this truth isn’t usually revealed easily. Although it’s a shame, that’s the world.”— Mr. Gong (Lie to Me)
It’s pretty hard to do. It’s like saying “yeah, it was all my fault.” or “all of that happened because of me.” The people who can do that are pretty righteous. I mean, why else would they? They tell the truth, acknowledge that it was their fault or their doing, and all they get is more criticism. Even though there may have been lies, in the end, all they leave is the truth. The simple truth. They fess up, telling everyone that it was them and that the other party isn’t at fault. Why? To protect the other person’s image even if their’s is slandered.
“I like beginnings because they’re so full of promise. The first page of a book, the first day of a job, the first time you buy yourself flowers, the first date with a new man, the first touch, the first kiss, the first kick of a good liquor, the first moment you hold your own baby. I like beginnings because I know there’s always more to come.”— Shyma Perera
I don’t understand why you would change your opinion on someone just because they’re adopted. I don’t think it changes their upbringing in any way. The parents they see everyday are the ones who raised them to be who they are, even though their biological parents are who they get their DNA from. Some kids were abandoned due to situations, others because some people felt it was their only choice. But, many of those kids still ended up being raised by people who brought them up like their own children. And I’m thankful to them because this world isn’t the same for everyone. Different people go through different things, some worse than others.
Have you ever thought of the other persons feelings? Aren’t they more hurt under these circumstances? It’s different because even though you’re older, you’re expected to know more and understand more. But, that doesn’t seem to be the case… There’s different types of people in the world; not all of them have the same circumstances as you. Some are just as lucky, others not even close to as lucky as you. Personalities are different; that time it just turns out that someone had a very horrible personality. So, shouldn’t you try to put your feelings away and think of them instead?
“I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness, and the willingness to remain vulnerable.”—Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Gift From The Sea (via bookoasis)